Some Spiritual Maxims of St. Francis de Sales

St. Francis de Sales

Who is St. Francis de Sales?

01. "Blessed are the hearts that can bend: they shall never be broken."

02. "Nothing appeases an enraged elephant so much as the sight of a little lamb."

03. "One kind word wins more willing service than a hundred harsh orders or stern reproofs."

04. "You can catch more flies with a spoonful of honey than with a barrel of vinegar."

05. "Do all by love and nothing by force; love obedience rather than fear disobedience."

06. "Ask for nothing and refuse nothing."

07. "Reason is the special characteristic of man, and yet it is a rare thing to find really reasonable men,"

08. "We must be prepared to see weeds growing in our garden and also have the courage to pull them out."

09. "Always put yourself in your neighbor's place, and put him into yours, and then you will judge fairly."

10. "Bearing with the imperfections of our neighbors is one of the chief characteristics of our love for them."

11. "One ounce of patient suffering is worth far more than a pound of action."

12. "We must fight back with affection and not with reason."

13. "The well-being of a household depends on parents' words, but far more on their behavior."

14. "Those who do not mean to entertain guests should take down their signboard."

15. "The measure of our love is to love without measure."

16. "To prepare the salad well you need more oil than vinegar."

17. "Be patient with everyone, but above all with yourself."

18. "You can only give God what you have."

19. "Love virtue rather than fear sin."

20. "We must, if possible, avoid making our devotion troublesome to others."

21. "Never forget that souls are poisoned through the ear as much as bodies through the mouth."

22. "A straightforward excuse has far greater weight than any falsehood."

23. "Sell as you would buy, and buy as you would sell, and your buying and selling will alike be honest."

24. "Correction given in anger, however tempered by reason, never has so much effect as that which is given altogether without anger..."

25. "Do not desire crosses, unless you have borne those already laid upon you as well..."

26. "Physicians judge to a great extent as to health or disease by the state of the tongue, and our words are a true test of the state of our soul."

27. "No one is esteemed before God for having lived long, but for having lived well."

28. "The bed of the sick is an altar of sacrifice."

29. "During this mortal life we must choose eternal love or eternal death."

30. "There is a great difference between being occupied with God who gives us the contentment, and being busied with the contentment which God gives us."

31. "Nothing so much wounds a loving heart as to perceive another wounded with the love of it."

32. "Bees never wound without being themselves wounded to death."

33. "Always be neat, do not ever permit any disorder or untidiness about you."

34. "And so ought we always to judge our neighbor as charitably as may be; and if his actions are many-sided, we should accept the best."

35. "If your affections are warm and tender, your judgment will not be harsh; if they are loving, your judgment will be the same."

36. "Great occasions for serving God come seldom, but little ones surround us daily."

37. "We are eager to deal out strict justice to others, but to obtain indulgence for ourselves. "

38. "We find fault with our neighbor very readily for a small matter, while we pass over great things in ourselves."

39. "We have two scales, one wherein to measure our own goods to the best advantage, and the other to weigh our neighbors' to the worst."

40. "Do not desire crosses, unless you have borne those already laid upon you well--it is an abuse to long after martyrdom while unable to bear an insult patiently."

41. "However much we may admire and crave for light, it is apt to dazzle our eyes when they have been long accustomed to darkness;"

42. "There are always spiders at hand to spoil the honey-bee's comb."

43. "The Enemy of souls often inspires men with ardent desires for unattainable things, in order to divert their attention from present duties,"

44. "Great occasions for serving God come seldom, but little ones surround us daily; "

45. "Love is the great healer of all ills."

46. "It is wonderful how attractive a gentle, pleasant manner is, and how much it wins hearts."

47. "A really humble man would rather that some one else called him worthless and good-for-nothing, than say so of himself;"

48. "Vines grown amid olive trees are wont to bear rich grapes, and he who frequents the society of good people will imbibe some of their goodness."

49. "He is poor in spirit whose heart is not filled with the love of riches, whose mind is not set upon them."

50. "Humility makes our lives acceptable to God, meekness makes us acceptable to men."

51. "Now here is the high point of virtue: to correct immoderation moderately."

52. "Be who you are and be that well."

53. "There is nothing small in the service of God. Be faithful in small things and God will see that you will succeed in those of great importance."



Seven Salesian Virtues To Make The Ordinary, Extraordinary 

1) To others' little acts of selfishness and unfairness - ENDURE PATIENTLY.

2) Amid your shortcomings and limitations - SEE THE BRIGHT SIDE.

3) When others are curt with you - SHOW GOOD HUMOR.

4) At the tiresome tempers of others - STAY CHEERFULLY EXCUSING.

5) When someone turns you down - PUT ON A GOOD FACE.

6) If someone helps, when you'd rather do it yourself - BE APPRECIATIVE.

7) When answering others - SPEAK GENTLY AND SHOW COURTESY.


O God, Help me to Live Jesus,

grant me the grace

to practice these seven little virtues

in my everday living. Amen.

(Note: the above "Seven Salesian Virtues To Make The Ordinary Extraordinary" and prayer were taken from a holy card by Fr. Richard R. De Lillio, OSFS who gave permission for its use on this website.)

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